Friday 25 August 2017

Method of Divorce


Reference Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lhQpuOAeAUQ


These are the steps one should follow if one thinks divorce is the best solution to one's marriage.

1. One man from the family of the woman, and one man from the family of the man should have a sit down and discuss what the issues are. And who's at fault. And council the one who's fault. Q:"And if they want to resolve an issue, then Allah will put mohabbat in their hearts." This task has to be done by men of the families.

2. Halat e hez main talaq ne di jaye

3. Paki ki halat main shart yeh hai k mubashrat se pehle chore, mubashrat kar li tou is Tuhr main bhi nahin chor sakte

4. Sirf aik talaq per iktifa kia jaye, dusri aur teesri na ki jaye, phir is aik se 3 periods k baad nikah batil hojaye

5. Aur agar wakai bezar hai, tou dosray tuhr ka intezar kare. Phir us main dobara talaq de, phir tesri talaq k liye phir teesray tuhr tak intezar kare. Aur kisi bhi tuhr main ham bistry jaiz nahin.

Thursday 10 August 2017

Imam Ghazali on time management


"Your time should not be without any structure, such that you occupy yourself arbitrarily with whatever comes along.
Rather, you must take account of yourself and order your worship during the day and the night, assigning to each period of time an activity that must not be neglected nor replaced by another activity.
By this ordering of time, the blessing in time will show itself. A person who leaves himself without a plan as animals do, not knowing what he is to do at any given moment, will spend most of his time fruitlessly.
Your time is your life, and your life is your capital: by it you make your trade, and by it you will reach the eternal bounties in the proximity of Allah.
Every single breath of yours is a priceless jewel, because it is irreplaceable; once it is gone, there is no return for it.
So do not be like fools who rejoice each day as their wealth increases while their lives decrease. What good is there in wealth that increases while one’s lifespan decreases?
Do not rejoice except in an increase of knowledge or an increase of good works. Truly they are your two friends who will accompany you in your grave, when your spouse, your wealth, your children, and your friends will remain behind.”
— Imam al-Ghazali

Thursday 3 August 2017

Summary: Why children are disobedient to their parents بچے والدین کے نافرمان کیوں

Summary of this bayan as I undderstand it:

1. Secular education is like Ghiza (food) and Religious education is like dawa (Medicine). We need both of these to live a healthy life. Where food is regular, we become sick, and need medicine. Likewise with education.

2. Everything has a taseer (nature, side effect) — water has an side-effect that it cools one down in addition to quenching the thirst. Spices have an effect the heat one up, though the primary reason is to improve the taste of the food. It's the nature of the secular sciences that they progress. They improve my criticising the previously accumulated knowledge, findings flaws in it, and improving upon it. The idea is newer is better than older. So the kids who are taking secular education subconsciously adopt this view with regards to their elders.

3. Religious education. Respect the elders, love the elders, trust the elders, associate with the elders. Rely on the elders. Religion doesn't "progress", it doesn't improve upon the previous. It only applies what was said earlier, to what's new. Religion progresses not my evolving, not by looking at older things with new perspectives, but newer things with old perspective.

4. Secular education is the science of experimentation. Experiments can be criticised in light of new experiments. Of course. But Wahi cannot be criticised in light of new "knowledge". If we challenge or criticise Wahii, we might lose Emaan.