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Method of Divorce

Reference Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lhQpuOAeAUQ


These are the steps one should follow if one thinks divorce is the best solution to one's marriage.

1. One man from the family of the woman, and one man from the family of the man should have a sit down and discuss what the issues are. And who's at fault. And council the one who's fault. Q:"And if they want to resolve an issue, then Allah will put mohabbat in their hearts." This task has to be done by men of the families.

2. Halat e hez main talaq ne di jaye

3. Paki ki halat main shart yeh hai k mubashrat se pehle chore, mubashrat kar li tou is Tuhr main bhi nahin chor sakte

4. Sirf aik talaq per iktifa kia jaye, dusri aur teesri na ki jaye, phir is aik se 3 periods k baad nikah batil hojaye

5. Aur agar wakai bezar hai, tou dosray tuhr ka intezar kare. Phir us main dobara talaq de, phir tesri talaq k liye phir teesray tuhr tak intezar kare. Aur kisi bhi tuhr main ham bistry jaiz nahin.

Imam Ghazali on time management

"Your time should not be without any structure, such that you occupy yourself arbitrarily with whatever comes along.
Rather, you must take account of yourself and order your worship during the day and the night, assigning to each period of time an activity that must not be neglected nor replaced by another activity.
By this ordering of time, the blessing in time will show itself. A person who leaves himself without a plan as animals do, not knowing what he is to do at any given moment, will spend most of his time fruitlessly.
Your time is your life, and your life is your capital: by it you make your trade, and by it you will reach the eternal bounties in the proximity of Allah.
Every single breath of yours is a priceless jewel, because it is irreplaceable; once it is gone, there is no return for it.
So do not be like fools who rejoice each day as their wealth increases while their lives decrease. What good is there in wealth that increases while one’s lifespan decreases?
Do not rejoice except in an increase of knowledge or an increase of good works. Truly they are your two friends who will accompany you in your grave, when your spouse, your wealth, your children, and your friends will remain behind.”
— Imam al-Ghazali

On Getting Married

From here.

One approach about How to get married is, first date the person and try to get to know him/her before marrying. Because, otherwise you're marrying a complete stranger. And it may not work out...

On closer inspection, we learn that, a lot of those marriages that are breaking, are not breaking because the couple didn't know one another, but because

When to marry?
As soon as you feel mature enough. Even if you're a student, but there's place for you to keep her, and your parents can feed her, then get married.

After marrying, nobody ever says I married too early, everyone says I should have married earlier.

What can we do to prepare for marriage?
Understand the laws of divorce.
Read a _few_ books on marriage.

It's about expectations. Expect that she will talk back.

There are people who are not interested in marriage.
Some guys think all women are bad, some girls think all women are bad.

Anas ra relates:

Whoever Allah provides with a righteous wife, then He has assisted him in half his deen. Then he should just fear in the other half. 

Although it addresses men, because he (saw.) had male audience, it works for women as well.

... to be continued ...

Drink your food, chew your water - part II

Benefits of chewing thoroughly

1. Sunnat
2. Hadees per Amal
3. Sabar paida hoga
4. You will eat less
5. Food will be more delicious
6. People don't judge you as greedy
7. Will get rid of the dangers of eating
8. More engergy

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Halal, Kosher, Zabiha, Oh My!

Is Kosher meat halal for Muslims to consume?

http://askimam.org/public/question_detail/19734

http://askimam.org/public/question_detail/17572

What is the deal with zabiha/halal?
http://www.zamzamacademy.com/2013/03/zabiha-meat-madness/

Can there be such a thing as haram cheese?

Shirk

"We are filled with nifaq (hypocrisy). We may not make Sajda to any statue or any tree or any fire, but our heart makes Sajda to the beauty of ghair mehram. That's what you should think. You shouldn't think 'my eyes look'. You should think 'my heart is making Sajda to her. That's what I'm doing'. You actually say it: 'it's irresistible', 'I'm addicted', 'I'm hooked', 'I'm attracted'. You have become weak. Yes what you seek is weak, false, fake, but you are weak for wanting that. This is a type of nifaq. Just imagine then that Allah Taala is concealing our nifaq like he concealed their* nifaq. What if on the day of judgment Allah Taala exposes our nifaq just like he is going to expose their nifaq?"

* i.e. the munafiqeen (hypocrites) of Madinah at the time of the Prophet Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam

Shaykh Mufti Kamaluddin Ahmed from a talk in England on "The Fake Muslim"

(transcribed from audio so it may be slightly different from his exact words)

Full talk available on www.islamicspirituality.org

Money: Its purpose

source: http://www.ashrafiya.com/2015/04/15/money-its-purpose/


A seeker living abroad for his medical training wrote,

The travelling expenses for visiting home will be around three thousand dollars (a substantial amount for a foreign trainee in mid 1990’s). Would it be appropriate to spend so much money on myself?

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah protect him) replied,

‘Assess your financial capacity (for spending). If no major necessity is affected and you do not have to draw loan then (be aware that) money is for providing happiness and comfort to one’s self and family. Moreover, making parents happy (by visiting them) is a reward-able action.’

Islahi khatoot  

Grudges

source: http://www.ashrafiya.com/2015/03/18/grudges


Our master Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him), said,

“The gates of Paradise are opened every Monday and Thursday. Every slave who has not associated any partner with Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) is forgiven except one who has enmity with his (Muslim) brother. It is said regarding them “Leave them until they make peace with each other”.

Explanation: The meaning of this Hadith is explained by another narration which Imam Mundhiri (rahimahullah) has narrated in Targheeb wa Tarheeb with reference to Awsat Tabrani.  It is stated in that narration that everyone’s deeds are presented (to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala) every Monday and Thursday. Whoever asked for forgiveness is forgiven, and whoever made Tawba, his Tawba is accepted. But the deeds of those who keep a grudge against each other are returned (meaning their istighfar and tawba are not accepted) until they stop having a grudge against each other. There are also some other Hadith regarding this topic. It is learnt from them that if a Muslim has a grudge against his Muslim brother then he does not deserve the mercy and forgiveness of Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) until he cleans his heart from this grudge.

Source: Hadith # 411, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad by Imam Bukhari (rahimahullah) with Urdu translation and explanation by Maulana Muhammad Khalid Sahab Khangarhi

Water

Water thirsts for the person,
who thirsts for it.

Why?

Whatever is gonna for Allah swt, that will endure. That will remain. Only that. 

7 Things that harden the heart

source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPf3tHLosS8&feature=share

Things that harden the heart

1. Music
2. Missing 3 jummas
3. Arguments and Conflicts
4. Arrogance
5. Breaking the promise

Stages of the hardening of the heart

1. Black spots appear on heart. I keep sinning and they start layering on top of another. 
2. So much so that the hearts become rusty. 
3. So much so that hearts become hard. Long time passes when we don't remember Allah, our hearts become like stones. In fact, harder than stones. 
4. So much so - that Allah Himself puts a seal on their hearts. When Allah seals it, who is gonna open it?
5. There's a lock on the heart. 

Its Cures

1. Ahsaas us Zia - feeling how bad our heart is. Any person who doesn't recognize that they're in trouble. The first is to perceive the problem. 
2. Crying
3. Avoiding Sins
4. Controlling the gaze
5. Regimen of dhikr
6. Recite Quran
7. Stay Hungry 
8. Duas in the last part of the night
9. With all of this: Companionship of the pious. Konoo ma'assadiqeen.

One who stays away from the remembers away from the remembrance of Allah, we designate a shaytan for him. And that Shaytan becomes his companion. 

Remember Allah abundantly. Not a bit. Who are those people who remember Allah only a bit? The munafikeen. 

Qul HuAllahu Ahad

Time

Time is in the hands of God. Give some to Him, He will open it up for you.

Raabta

Never think that you have angered or annoyed the shaykh by telling him your spiritual condition and faults, or that you have lowered yourself in his eyes. You have only raised your status in this faqīr’s
heart by being open and truthful. It may be that the devil (shaytān) tries to delude you into only writing good points about yourself from now on, but know that this would be fatal for your spiritual progress. I am hopeful that you will not be a hypocrite to yourself in this matter. There is no better judge in this world than one’s own conscience. I am hopeful that you will keep me informed of your condition from time to time. It is foolish to conceal one’s illness from one’s doctor.

source: http://www.tasawwuf.org/writings/wisdom_seeker/

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Lover?

source: http://www.tasawwuf.org/writings/wisdom_seeker/

In the darkness of the night, cooed a pigeon
On a branch, in weakness, while I was asleep.

I lied; By Allah, were I a lover,
The pigeon would not have outpaced me in weeping.

I assume I am lovesick, love struck
But I weep not, while animals weep.

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In the name of God, the Merciful, the Compassionate. Alif, Lam, Mim, Do the people think that they will be left in the position that they say, `We have believed’, without their being tried? We tried those who were before them’ (Q. 29, 1)

"When you make true dhikr of Allah, the problem doesn't go away, but the worry of the problem does." - Shaykh Kamaluddin Ahmed

Hanafi position on women going to the masjid

source: http://askimam.org/public/question_detail/30679

I've read from several `ulamaa' that it is makruh tahrimi for women to go to the masjid, and that this is the official stance of the Hanafi madhab.
Is this true? If this is true, can you please present some ahadith, athar, or quotes which support this stance?

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

We refer you to the following Hadith:

صحيح مسلم) 2/400 دار ابن رجب

عَنْ عَمْرَةَ بِنْتِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ، أَنَّهَا سَمِعَتْ عَائِشَةَ، زَوْجَ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم تَقُولُ لَوْ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم رَأَى مَا أَحْدَثَ النِّسَاءُ لَمَنَعَهُنَّ الْمَسْجِدَ كَمَا مُنِعَتْ نِسَاءُ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ ‏.‏ قَالَ فَقُلْتُ لِعَمْرَةَ أَنِسَاءُ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ مُنِعْنَ الْمَسْجِدَ قَالَتْ نَعَمْ ‏.‏

Translation: 'Amra, daughter of Abd al-Rahmin, reported:

I heard 'A'isha, the wife of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: If the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) had seen what new things the women have introduced (in their way of life) he would have definitely prevented them from going to the mosque, as the women of BaniIsra'il were prevented. [1]

(Sahih Muslim V.2 Pg.400 Dar ibn Rajab)

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Immad Bin Arshad

Student Darul Iftaa
California, USA

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

www.daruliftaa.net

[1]  حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مَسْلَمَةَ بْنِ قَعْنَبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا سُلَيْمَانُ، - يَعْنِي ابْنَ بِلاَلٍ - عَنْ يَحْيَى، - وَهُوَ ابْنُ سَعِيدٍ - عَنْ عَمْرَةَ بِنْتِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ، أَنَّهَا سَمِعَتْ عَائِشَةَ، زَوْجَ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم تَقُولُ لَوْ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم رَأَى مَا أَحْدَثَ النِّسَاءُ لَمَنَعَهُنَّ الْمَسْجِدَ كَمَا مُنِعَتْ نِسَاءُ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ ‏.‏ قَالَ فَقُلْتُ لِعَمْرَةَ أَنِسَاءُ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ مُنِعْنَ الْمَسْجِدَ قَالَتْ نَعَمْ ‏.‏

Reference    : Sahih Muslim 445 a

In-book reference  : Book 4, Hadith 161

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